Showing posts with label femininity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label femininity. Show all posts

Wednesday, 2 October 2024

Sometimes silence overpowers noise!

Kottukkaali (The Adamant Girl, Tamil; 2024)
Director: P.S. Vinothraj

What do you do when your young daughter becomes catatonic, refuses to speak or eat, stares into oblivion and is hellbent on marrying her equally young boyfriend? You tell her that her choice of boyfriend is inappropriate and that she is way too young to be committed. That she is destined to achieve much more in life; she retreats and refuses to respond and goes all silent; what do you do? Perhaps you would sit down as a family and reason with her. Get a mental health professional involved. Words like puppy love, teenage angst, stress and even bipolar disease would be thrown into the ring.

What do Paandi, his sister, and the rest of the family members do when Paandi's sister's daughter, Meena, goes silent and says she is in love with her friend, who is not approved by the family? Paandi was supposed to marry his niece; it is legitimate in that part of interior Tamil Nadu. The whole family feels that Meena is under a spell. They go on a journey to see a holy man who would break the spell. En route, they would stop at a local deity temple. The whole story is told through this journey. In fact, a good hour into the movie, viewers are clueless about who is who and what is happening. It is all about self-exploration through cinematic experience. No wonder it got a raving review at the 2024 Berlin International Film Festival.

One can pick up many easter eggs as the movie progresses. At that start, we see a cockerel tied to a stone at one of its legs to prevent it from fleeing. We can see it standing on one leg, struggling to pitch the kick of the rope away from its other leg. In fact, this is what the main character, Meena, is doing. In the Tamil lingo, when someone is said to be standing on one leg, he is said to be stubborn or adamant. Hence, the title. An adamant person would kick away the obstacles that bog him down and move along.

The men in the story control everything. They tell the ladies what to do and even where to sit. In this patriarchal society, they are in charge. They know the best route to the places they need, when to go there and all the stops on the way. They can revive a dehydrated rooster and keep peace. They soon realise that diseases of the mind are beyond comprehension.

An angry bull parks itself on a country road, obstructing their path. Being farmers, they thought shooing the bull away was child's play. Not really, they realised. The nearer they went, the angrier the bulls became. The crow could land on its hump without creating a ruckus. All it finally took was its owner's daughter, a pre-pubescent girl, to pull the bull away. 

Not everything can be put in place with a stick and rod, so we need to dangle a carrot. We need the correct person to perform the proper duties. A snake charmer cannot tame a tiger. If a holy man can solve the problems of the nerves, so be it. 

We exert our authority and sell our ideas by just shouting and raising our voices. Sometimes, we realise we cannot overpower silence. Toxic masculinity cannot win over feminine silence.

The party finally reached their destination. After witnessing another client being exorcised, Paandi is not so sure his niece should undergo such a treatment. The ending is left to our imagination. It's a good movie; 4.5/5. See a comedian transform into a character actor. Also, learn a new film genre—road movie. 

Saturday, 24 April 2021

Make or break!

Gauri
There it was, another family celebration and another tête-à-tête with my favourite uncle. Whilst the rest were immersed in their revelry, we were pretty engaged in our own private discourse - with him looking for someone to impart his 85-year old life experiences, and I, just listening and sometimes trying to tease more out of him. This time around, we discussed the role of the significant other in the family, among many things. This post is what transpired out of that.

They say that behind every man's success, there is a woman. Many are quick to quip that behind their every fall, there is another, the other woman. Women have the uncanny ability to create as well as to destroy.


With the biological assets that they are endowed with, they can create, nurture and sustain life with their tenacity and ever-embracing progestogenic demeanour, like a mother hen, able to hide her chicklings under my wings away from the prancing eagle. And they will protect their little ones with the last scratch of their claw from hissing predator snake.

Mahishasura Mardini.

They can choose what they want. They can be Gauri, the epitome of peace and happiness comparable to the bosom of a mother, the all-embracing embodiment of calmness and purity, depicted by the all-white attire and an equally composed vehicle, the saintly cow. As Gauri, she plays the role of peacemaker, a rock of hope and anchor to hold an institution steady to traverse the uncertainties of life.

When the situation warrants, she needs to assume the role of Mahishasura Mardini, the slayer of the buffalo demon, Mahishasura, who, with the boon of indestructibility, terrorised the Universe. She took this fiercest form of Durga, with the Trident of Siva, to bring equilibrium to the system.

It may appear that the illustrative embodiment of shakti, female power, can act unilaterally with no control without the need for its counterpart, the male energy, Shiva. Not really. Harmony is achieved with the inclusion of both powers. Notice that Shiva's representation appears in both Gauri and Durga form of the female divinity - Trident, to protect and attack. Unbridled power, it seems, is also counterproductive.

Kaali
Remember the instance of Kaali, intoxicated with the taste of blood and energy of invincibility, she was on a rampage. Only Shiva could pacify her. His prostration in her path subdued her. In embarrassment, she let her tongue out, more of an admission of mistake rather than an intimidating posture. This tongue-letting image is often depicted as that of fearsome Kaali. In reality, it is not.

It takes two to tango. Both parties have to nimble and agile to produce an eye-soothing display of this Spanish light-spirited variety of flamenco.



“Be afraid. Be very afraid.”*