I overheard a conversation recently.
"How come she is still a pain in the butt? Now that she is seeing a therapist, I thought that she would be less toxic. Hell, no. She is still the same old nuisance. All the time and therapy down the drain!" said one in a hushed voice.
"Well, the purpose of therapy is for her own wellbeing. Not to be a plush toy for other to squeeze," her friend replied. "It is for her to be able to withstand biatches like us!'
That seems to be right. Counselling and therapy are not meant that it will be a sun-shiny day for everybody. The primary concern is the individual. It may sound very self-centric and narcissistic but that is the reality. This science developed around the time when the century was undergoing massive transformations. People, who before that lived their lives just as a building block in a giant jigsaw puzzle called society, started living for themselves. If ex-communication used to be a death sentence, it became irrelevant in the new era. Welcome to the century of self! It was about this time that the great monarchs and great empires crumbled. People were fed up serving others. They wanted to serve themselves. They wanted to live life for themselves. Gone in the wind was the motto 'Charity beyond self' to be replaced by 'Charity begins at home'.
The individual soon became the centre of modern society. The focus fell upon oneself to cope with the pressures exerted by the society upon individual liberty. The society was no longer the bedrock for solace. It became caustic. Every man (or woman) was for himself. They think, therefore they exist. Of course, the therapist may talk of existential psychotherapy to treat social maladies, it is in no way going to explain the purpose of our existence - is it for our individual selves of is it a continuum of something much bigger?
"How come she is still a pain in the butt? Now that she is seeing a therapist, I thought that she would be less toxic. Hell, no. She is still the same old nuisance. All the time and therapy down the drain!" said one in a hushed voice.
"Well, the purpose of therapy is for her own wellbeing. Not to be a plush toy for other to squeeze," her friend replied. "It is for her to be able to withstand biatches like us!'That seems to be right. Counselling and therapy are not meant that it will be a sun-shiny day for everybody. The primary concern is the individual. It may sound very self-centric and narcissistic but that is the reality. This science developed around the time when the century was undergoing massive transformations. People, who before that lived their lives just as a building block in a giant jigsaw puzzle called society, started living for themselves. If ex-communication used to be a death sentence, it became irrelevant in the new era. Welcome to the century of self! It was about this time that the great monarchs and great empires crumbled. People were fed up serving others. They wanted to serve themselves. They wanted to live life for themselves. Gone in the wind was the motto 'Charity beyond self' to be replaced by 'Charity begins at home'.
The individual soon became the centre of modern society. The focus fell upon oneself to cope with the pressures exerted by the society upon individual liberty. The society was no longer the bedrock for solace. It became caustic. Every man (or woman) was for himself. They think, therefore they exist. Of course, the therapist may talk of existential psychotherapy to treat social maladies, it is in no way going to explain the purpose of our existence - is it for our individual selves of is it a continuum of something much bigger?
Life is very short and there's no time for fussing and fighting my friend!
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