Author: Arundhati Roy
It is a widespread adage. Boys tend to gravitate towards their mothers and fathers, while daughters regard their fathers as their soul mates. Many daughters have a love-hate relationship with their mothers. They often appear to be at loggerheads and argue over the most trivial reasons, but at the first sign of distress, both are quick to be each other's Rock of Gibraltar.
Perhaps secretly, each of them sees a version of themselves in the other, and they dislike what they see. The mother might think she could have made better choices, such as selecting a better life partner or achieving a higher career status. With those noble intentions, she may be constantly watching her daughter, hoping to see her attain a life of greater stature than her own.
The daughter believes the mother has a lifelong vendetta to ruin every part of her future. Everything the daughter does, it seems, is a disappointment. Perhaps the mother is simply old-fashioned and jealous of the freedom the daughter enjoys, which the mother was denied. Under the guise of securing her future, the mother acts as the villain, destroying whatever few bricks are left laid.
Susanne Arundhati Roy recalls her childhood in Kerala, growing up with her mother. Her father was estranged, but Roy's lively mother was no pushover. She founded a private school after losing her inheritance because of an outdated state law. She took legal action against the family and successfully had the law amended after taking her case to a higher court.
Roy grew up with her mother in a steam cooker environment with the elder constantly breathing down her neck, despite the mother's struggle with chronic asthma. The mother ran the school and her family (Arundhati and her brother) with an iron fist, supported by subservient helpers.
The biopic continues with Roy heading to architecture school, experimenting with writing, becoming involved with a married filmmaker, engaging with the leftist movement, and writing her first novel, 'The God of Small Things.' It concludes around the time of her mother's death.
An engaging book that depicts the bittersweet relationship between a mother and daughter.
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