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'No' means no!

Pink (Hindi, 2016)


That is the reality. On one side, we have the fairer sex fairing better by leaps and bounds in all areas; equality, education, knowledge, even in games that require endurance, as leaders in society and assertiveness. We concede that we are modern and do not impose the chains of control over them. On the other hand, we are still feudalistic in our mindset. We still look at them as lesser beings. We expect them to behave in a particular manner and wait for them to curl up to meet our primal, animalistic needs. We make our own impressions about their needs. We assume their seeming ordinary acts of culture, intelligent behaviour as an invitation to casual sex. We say they asked for it. Their way of dressing, friendly demure and friendly gestures are misconstrued. The society has the view that when she says 'no', she means 'yes'. We have different rules for different genders. Men are not ready to lose their patriarchal role to give the female gender equal footing in society.

Three girls decide to continue their celebrations with three guys, who are friends of their common friend, after attending a rock concert, with alcoholic beverages. Their seemingly cultured act is judged negatively on their morals and is taken as an open invitation to illegal carnal gratifications. Their refusal to sexual liaisons is conversely understood as a 'yes'. That is the aggressors' perception that the telltale sign were all there and their conduct was a testimony of it. Hence, when their 'willing partners' said no, they meant yes! In defence, one of the victims swung an empty liquor bottle to her assailant, almost blinding him.

When the girls turned to the long arms of the arm, the supposed protectors of the oppressed turned the table on them. The girls instead were charged with soliciting clients and attempted murder.

In comes an old-timer, a once reputable lawyer who got disillusioned with the whole legal system to their defence.

What follows is a moving depiction of the mental impression and stereotyping of the public on working girls and girls in general. One of the actors who took the main character actually broke down a few times as the role was quite demanding. Perhaps with the luxury of poetic licence and to spice up the movie, the filmmaker must have decided to show the Indian courts to appear like shouting matches in a fish market.

We are now probably at a crossroad where the ladies are regaining the rightful place in society that they once held when we were all cavemen. Men used to be wanderers who were out hunting and were only an occasional guest at their own caves and community. The women ran the whole show then.

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