Many a time all of us may have been caught in a betwixt and between situation where we are in the middle of two warring factions. Most of the time, we are at a lost as both factions seem to have some justification in the way they behaved and the way the other did what they did!
The truth of the matter must lie somewhere in the middle as I have come to understand that things in life are neither black nor white. It is usually in shades of grey. I was caught in a similar situation not too long ago.
A was happily employed with B for many years with both parties respecting each other, enjoying each other's company and the relationship was more than just a employer-employee one but rather to that of close friends' one. B was single handedly running and taking care of the company as if it were his own. It was during this time I came to know A and B. I got along well with both parties. Over the years, things soured up between A and B. By B's standards, A was becoming laggard and slip shot in his work and taking corners. According to A, on the other hand, B was easily irritable and petty, made worse when as his business hit a rough patch with things generally moving slowly and income was dwindling. From A's point of view, B was becoming a fussy old man with an unpredictable predicament. After many ugly incidences, both decided to go different ways. A quit and another employee took over A's post. Towards the tail end of the employment, I was caught in the middle with each party trying to tell their side of the story and try to get me to see their side of the story in the hope of condoning their respective actions. I managed with occasional non-committed "Oh!"s, "Is it?"s and half hearted "Yeah"s. It managed to have worked as I am still friends with parties, one year down the line.
Misunderstandings are bound to happen in any relationships, to err is human; to forgive but divine! Innocent by-standers should not take sides. We should enjoy the side show but rather just savour the good moments. The last thing that you want is both the warring factions teaming up and pointing their arsenal at your direction! Sometimes it is better to be like the weeds (lallang) in the meadows that sway and play to the tune of the direction of the winds. Do not take sides, just enjoy the good moments and stock up in the huge memory bank and savour it later. What has truth got to do with it at all. That's all!
*What's Love Got To Do With It - Tina Turner
The truth of the matter must lie somewhere in the middle as I have come to understand that things in life are neither black nor white. It is usually in shades of grey. I was caught in a similar situation not too long ago.
A was happily employed with B for many years with both parties respecting each other, enjoying each other's company and the relationship was more than just a employer-employee one but rather to that of close friends' one. B was single handedly running and taking care of the company as if it were his own. It was during this time I came to know A and B. I got along well with both parties. Over the years, things soured up between A and B. By B's standards, A was becoming laggard and slip shot in his work and taking corners. According to A, on the other hand, B was easily irritable and petty, made worse when as his business hit a rough patch with things generally moving slowly and income was dwindling. From A's point of view, B was becoming a fussy old man with an unpredictable predicament. After many ugly incidences, both decided to go different ways. A quit and another employee took over A's post. Towards the tail end of the employment, I was caught in the middle with each party trying to tell their side of the story and try to get me to see their side of the story in the hope of condoning their respective actions. I managed with occasional non-committed "Oh!"s, "Is it?"s and half hearted "Yeah"s. It managed to have worked as I am still friends with parties, one year down the line.
Misunderstandings are bound to happen in any relationships, to err is human; to forgive but divine! Innocent by-standers should not take sides. We should enjoy the side show but rather just savour the good moments. The last thing that you want is both the warring factions teaming up and pointing their arsenal at your direction! Sometimes it is better to be like the weeds (lallang) in the meadows that sway and play to the tune of the direction of the winds. Do not take sides, just enjoy the good moments and stock up in the huge memory bank and savour it later. What has truth got to do with it at all. That's all!
*What's Love Got To Do With It - Tina Turner
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